Taking radical responsibility for our own worth and happiness

Tanya taught me a big lesson in taking radical responsibility for our own worth and happiness many Mother's Days ago. She had booked herself a swim and sauna at Icebergs and it was reflected to her by a member of her extended family that she should be spending her Mother's Day with her children. The shoulds. One of my friends says "Don't should all over me". And I agree.

She had a desire to spend some time filling her cup on Mother's Day and so she did. No need for anyone to book it for her. No expectations on what a special day it would be if only someone guessed and planned it perfectly for her. She decided what she wanted and she made it happen.

I have taken a leaf out of her book every Mother's Day and birthday since. I think about what I most want, and I plan it, book it or tell Simon exactly what I'd like. No guessing, no expectations on him or the kids, no blame. And I fill the day so much on my birthday with my favourite things that I'm not checking who's messaged or not, I'm having the time of my life filling my own cup and everything else is the sprinkles on top.

The same with worth, I have trained myself to speak kindly to myself. To notice when I feel bad or guilty about something and look at how I can learn from it or reframe my thoughts to a more supportive one.

No one can make us feel something we don't already feel about ourselves. It's our job to build our self worth up so much that we don't allow others opinions to hurt us.

That's what Return of the Wild Woman is about. Building your self worth so much that you allow your standards to raise for how other people treat you. Making yourself happy and filling your own cup so that you're not expecting others to do it for you. I can’t wait to hold space for your growth.

Sacha Marie xx